Thursday, October 6, 2011

Ditching the Gals for the Guy

As I mentioned in my last post, I l-o-v-e my DFFs, and they are really great to pull me through on a rough day. Monday was just such a day - I was a frumptastic mess (except for my fab sock-bun!), the kids wouldn't nap, laundry was piled up. to. my. ears, and there was weeping and gnashing of teeth...and the baby was crying, too. All afternoon the girls bolstered my resolve to not go nuts.

My Hunky Hubby :-)
But when the time came for our weekly sewing circle in-real-life fellowship time that evening, I had to skip. It seems strange - you'd think I'd welcome the escape after such a rough day (and usually I really do). This time though, I needed an evening with the hubs. You see, as much as I love my DFFs, I haven't ever had to depend on them to hold my crying, teething baby for hours; and, as much as they'd be happy to do so, I'm sure, I haven't actually cried on one of their shoulders. So Monday, hubby was the person I needed.

So, I quickly threw together a date night theme. It's a good thing, because it turned out, he needed something different after his hard day, too. We'd been talking about re-watching a clever sitcom that we have enjoyed together in the past, so I started there. Then I had the inspiration to shanghai ask for his help folding the laundry. :-) So, I called our evening "Laundry Day at the Dorm."

I quickly created this invitation, which he found on his side of the bed when he got home from work. (Don't be embarrassed, we are married, after all!) ;-)

The inside

We had a school cafeteria-inspired dinner of frozen chicken nuggets, steamed frozen veggies, and canned fruit (don't worry, it all ended up being tasty, plus it was kid-friendly). Then I made some chocolate chip, banana nut muffins (based roughly on this recipe, but with whole wheat flour, applesauce for the butter, and less sugar than the recipe called for --- healthy) to remind me of the ones I used to get from the little StopGap convenience store in the student union back in the day. They were delicious, if I do say so myself.

Once we got the kids and baby to bed, we had ourselves an evening of folding and hanging laundry while we watched several episodes of the show. (So, I thought about taking pictures of the laundry, but I think it's safe to say that you all know what 6 loads of laundry looks like...surely it's not just me, right??) We laughed, we folded, we tended the fussy baby, and we laughed some more -- together.

No, it wasn't the most glamorous of dates; we didn't go out, we weren't dressed up, we spent zero money, and the kids were there for a major portion of it, but we had some relaxed time working and laughing at something -- together. I could have carried my negative, crummy attitude from the day all the way through the evening, but sometimes you just gotta shake things off, sacrifice that desire to be cheered up and coddled by someone else, and take action to turn the day around.

At the end of the night, hubby thanked me for my positive attitude that had improved his funk, and I actually felt better, too! And the laundry situation was back under control. So, maybe ditching the girls for the evening wasn't such a bad move, after all.

And now, check out some of these great posts for more inspiration!

The gals over at Dating Divas shared this fabulous idea for a Date Wheel that can help you choose what night-in activity to go with on short notice. It's a free printable! Definitely doing this!!

Need some more budget-friendly ideas to help fill your date wheel? Try heading over to Love, Actually blog for a whole load of them!

Now, my hubby loves hanging out with me (yay!!), but what if yours isn't that into "just hanging at home" and prefers to be out with the guys? To Love Honor and Vacuum had a great post yesterday addressing just such an issue. She brings up the importance of planning and especially incorporating your man's favorite activities, whether they are your favorite or not (remember this tip about sports season?) And if you think that the happiness of your relationship doesn't rest on your shoulders, consider that you are responsible for your feelings, and waiting for your husband (or anyone but Jesus) to make you happy is a recipe for a long and unhappy life.

Please share your favorite budget-friendly or night-in date ideas! We all need more inspiration! 

I'm linking up here:



  1. Aw, Susan! I love this!! And I love your sweet, contented, creative, make-the-best-of-the-situation heart!

  2. This post was so inspiring!! Can't wait to check out the other dating resources!

  3. I <3 this. And you! Miss ya, and always love your posts:D

  4. I love reading about other women that come up with similar at-home hubby and I will be doing dishes and cleaning floors (which are both majorly overdue) while listening to the Tigers game. Let's hope they do okay or my pregnant body will be doing all the work scrubbing the floor! ;o)

  5. I'm going to print out that dating wheel - a good idea!

  6. @Amber - Thanks Amber! Y'all's encouragement definitely makes it easier!
    @Audrey - There really is some great stuff out there! Lots of inspiration!
    @Maddi - Aww! I Miss you too, girl! We need to hang out!
    @Pam - Way to go incorporating those sports into your world! I hear the Tigers aren't too bad this year, so you should be good to go on the floors. :)
    @Laurel - Got mine printed off, too! It's headed for the laminator. :)

  7. Love this Susan! I haven't had a chance to read it until now. Thanks for reminding me that my attitude affects my whole family, and if I'm having a hard day, I can simply change it by having a better attitude.